I promised that I would devote my blog today to Rich. After all, I wouldn’t have a YouTube page, Facebook page or blog without him. Ok, if I’m being totally honest, I wouldn’t know how to set up a new computer without him, so I would be technologically challenged (a lot more than I am today.)
Rich and I met in college. We had met casually a few times, but then I was asked to tutor him in accounting and gladly accepted the challenge. After all, how many times do you get the chance to tutor someone as handsome as Rich? We spent a few months as friends and that evolved into us dating through most of college. We got married less than six months after Rich graduated. We were young, almost 22 and 23 when we got married. Today that sounds so young, but in the 1980’s, it was really common for people to get married right out of college. In fact, almost all of our friends were marrying around the time we were.
Two weeks after we got married, I got diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. Rich and I thought it was something you rubbed Ben Gay on and it went away. It didn’t. Mine was a very aggressive form of arthritis and by the time I was 27, I had my first knee replaced. It was highly unusual to do any joint replacements that young. In fact, I was the youngest person the doctors had ever done a replacement on in our hospital. This isn’t about me though, it’s about Rich. During the surgeries, Rich was a trooper and never complained about the things he had to do, and believe me, he had to do some really difficult things for a young married man.
We couldn’t have children because of my arthritis and although we both say it was ok, we both wish we could have had kids. I think most people would like to have children. Regardless, it wasn’t in the cards for us, so we travelled and did the things we wanted to do and both had good jobs and I was a saver, so Rich was able to retire at 52. Of all the things that life has thrown our way, having the option for him to retire and spend his time with me has been the greatest. We genuinely like spending time together and enjoy each other’s company. We were friends first and that’s the bedrock of our relationship. We have fun together and laugh at the same things.
We have three dogs, golden retrievers, and they keep Rich on his toes, especially Honey, our one year old. She’s half English retriever, which means a white retriever, so she’s a lot lighter in color than the other two dogs. Also a lot crazier. Maybe she’s not crazy, maybe in the four years since Bella was a puppy, we’ve forgotten how crazy puppies can be. No, I think she might just be crazy. Rich is a great dog owner, doesn’t mind letting them out in the middle of the night or giving them food at 5AM because that’s when they want breakfast. He’s just a nice man. He’s not perfect, but who is? He’s perfect to me though, and that’s all that matters. I can only hope that others are as lucky as we have been to have found each other. Our story wasn’t easy and most men wouldn’t have persevered throughout, but Rich isn’t most men. I am blessed to have found him and hope all of you who celebrate, have a very Happy Valentine’s Day..